Tuesday, January 8, 2013

A Cat Person

Growing up, on any given day there were at least 4-5 semi-feral cats creeping around the barn in our backyard.  I would always make it my mission to catch the teeny-tiny little kittens when they were born every spring.  I loved going on those kitten hunts.  I would even convince my little brother or our favorite neighbors to help on my mission.  However, once I "caught" the kittens, I wasn't ever really interested in keeping one for a pet.  I always thought they were better suited living in the rafters of the barn and catching field mice to supplement their feed store cat food my dad sat out every day.

I've never been a cat person.  I was always far more interested in having a dog as a pet.

My sweet Marley-girl  - Best.Dog.Ever.
While visiting family for Christmas, LJB fell in love with the tom cat that adopted my sister's family.  He cried when we left the kitty at their house and headed home.  Over the course of a few hours with their cat, this  kiddo learned 2 new words with no pleading prompting from us.  For 2 days he was talking about "kitty" and "meow."

The more I thought about it, the aloof attitude of a cat (what always kind of turned me off to having a cat as a pet) is so similar to LJB.  He is wonderfully affectionate and warm, on his terms.  Much like a cat, he will climb up in my lap and seek out affection, but only when it suits him.  Maybe this is why he was instantly attached to my sister's cat.  I don't know.  But, I do know that this boy wouldn't stop talking about the kitty.

My last day of vacation for the holidays, I took LJB on a solo trip to the animal shelter.  Taking LJB anywhere without a second set of hands is always anxiety inducing.  I kept preparing him and telling him that we were going to get a kitty.  He would repeat "Kitty?"  "Yes, son, we are going to get a kitty for our house."  I bet we had this conversation 100 times during the 15 minute drive to the shelter.   When we arrived at the shelter, there was a lot of commotion in the lobby - pets coming and going, a flurry of volunteers, several potential pet owners filling out paperwork and asking questions.  I could feel LJB tense up as I held him and I feared he was going to lose it, so I repeated our conversation from the car ride, "Remember, we are looking for a kitty for our house."

As we made our way back to the "cat room," we lost the crowd and the commotion.  The room was full of meow-ing cages.  LJB slowly studied each animal as he walked down the aisle.  Then he stopped.  He stopped at the cage of the biggest, fattest, orange cat I have ever seen.  This cat was rubbing up against the bars of his cage and LJB was flapping away and squealing with delight.  This seemed to elicit even more vigorous rubbing and louder purring from this gargantuan feline.  A volunteer took this guy out of his cage and showed me a room where we could become acquainted with Mr Fat Cat.  As soon as the volunteer turned her back, LJB grabbed the cat's tail and drug him to the other side of the room before I could intervene.  The cat never even flinched.  No hissing, no scratching.  Right then, I knew this was the cat we were going home with.  It wasn't the one I had picked out from the photos of adoptable cats on their website.  He was older, and fatter, and orange-r than what I was looking for, but LJB really liked him and he seemed well suited to tolerate LJB.


This past week as a cat owner, I have learned a few important lessons.
1.  A littler box, like a dirty diaper, is gross.  However, it is less gross if you tend to it quickly.

2.  According to the vet, 15lbs is a healthy weight for Leon.  He has big bones.  I think I am going to have our vet contact my family doctor before I have to get on the scale again.

3.  Playtime with the kitty is better bribery than chocolate...and that is saying something.  LJB will try a little harder at therapy, get dressed for school with fewer tears, and even pick up his toys if he knows he gets some quality kitty-time afterwards.

4. Maybe, just maybe, this dog-person can be a cat lover too.  If Leon (our fat orange kitty) makes LJB that happy, I can't help but fall in love with him too.


Saturday, January 5, 2013

A New Day

Today has been a much, much better day.  We all had a good nap and this evening we had a successful outing to a restaurant. We NEVER eat at restaurants because it more often than not ends in disaster, so today was a good day. : )

Friday, January 4, 2013

A No Good, Very Bad Day

Today I am feeling a little Alexander-ish....You know Alexander of the No Good, Very Bad Day fame.  It was just one of those days.  I am, in most instances, a glass half-full, silver lining kind of gal, but today...well, today I am just not.

This morning LJB had speech therapy.  As with most of our ST sessions, though our therapist offers good advice and seems pleased enough with LJB's progress, Mr B and I always leave frustrated.  Frustrated because the progress is not coming quickly enough.  Even though I know it isn't true, I guess a part of me is still holding on to hope that his delays are related to not being able to hear during a crucial developmental period (ear infections, tubes, etc.).  I still can almost convince myself that this whole autism thing is much ado about nothing and that all this kiddo needs is just a few more months of functioning eustachian tubes and the language will come.  Some day he will have a language burst and we'll be all caught up and all the doctors and therapists will be amazed and dumbfounded because their diagnosis was wrong because in my fantasy, being able to talk cures all LJB's behavioral issues and sensory struggles.  Then we have a therapy session and I am quickly reminded that my kid is autistic.  It's not a mistake, and it's not going away.  Each time I have this ah-ha moment, I have a good cry then put a pretend smile on my face.  All the while my heart is broken again, for the 9,000,000,000th time.  It's not going away. 

I cried on my way into work today, but mama had things to do and sometimes, getting away from autism and into my work world actually brings me some peace.  After therapy, I had 6 hours today of working time before I had to go to an appointment for LJB's new behavioral support plan.  I had about 10 hours worth of work to try and squeeze in to 6 hours.  I skipped lunch, asked my administrative assistant to do some clerical things I usually handle myself, and skipped my 32oz. Diet Dr Pepper to avoid wasting time going to the bathroom.  I was on a mission.  The clocked ticked on and soon enough it was time for me to leave or I was going to miss the appointment.  As I was headed down the hall to get my things and head off to LJB's appointment, I was stopped by my boss.  "Hey, Leanna.  Do you have a minute?  We need to discuss this new account you are going to be handling."  Of course, I couldn't tell him no.

I missed the appointment.  As I called to tell them I wasn't going to make it, I broke out in tears.  Another sobbing car ride ensued.  Now I am jammie-clad typing away listening to Kipper in the background.  Today still sucked, but it does feel a little bit better.

"After all, tomorrow is another day." 

Monday, December 31, 2012

A New Year

So, I know that I promised that I would catch up and return to regular posting nearly three months ago and that hasn't happened, but this time I promise.  For real.

To catch up on the past few months: 

LJB's new day care/preschool is wonderful.  His teachers are great, the staff is very well educated and knows how to handle him, and best of all he has shown so much progress since starting!  LJB has begun some parallel play with his friends at school.  His play skills are still incredibly immature, but at least he has some play skills at this point.  I couldn't even say that  6 months ago!  One of the 75,246,890,122 things that keep me up at night is wondering if/when he will ever be able to have a best friend.  If LJB will ever be able to form a relationship like I have been so blessed to have with my best friend (Shout out to my homegirl!  Love you, Rheedie!).  Even further than that, I wonder if he will ever be able to connect with someone and fall in love.  These are things that are in that huge pile of unknowns that, to be entirely honest, freak me out, but time will tell and I just have to wait and see.

Back to catching up...

We love our new house.  When we left Lexington, I had lived there for 7 years and Mr B had lived there for about 13 years.  It was home for us.  We left so many people and places that we loved and it was a hard move.  Ever since then, NKY just hasn't felt quite like home...until we moved.  Our new house is not fancy.  It's not huge and new and HGTV worthy.  It's actually pretty cluttered and the pale pink tiles in the bathroom could use some serious updating, but you know what...I love it.  It feels so homey.  LJB loves it too.  We've managed, with the help of his therapists, to turn the entire place into a sensory heaven.  If he feels the need to escape, LJB has dark quiet places all his own.  If he needs some sensory input, he can dive in the ball pit, flop down on the bean bags, or slide down the stairs on his rear end.  This is the stuff my kiddo lives for, and that makes me a happy mama! 

Our Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays were wonderful!  We have so much to be thankful for...even when circumstances seem pretty crappy.  I'm resolving to remember that more in the new year.  We spent Turkey Day with Grandma B who even watched LJB for a few hours so we could go catch a movie on Black Friday.  What a treat! 

Grandma B came back to stay with us for Christmas Eve/Christmas Day.  Santa brought a trampoline that LJB loves and a bunch of other goodies he hasn't really dug into yet -- he's pacing himself, ya know...  We drove to Western Kentucky to spend a rather eventful weekend with Gramma and Grandaddy and a houseful of sisters, brothers, in laws, cousins, aunts, uncles, and friends close enough to be family.  It was truly a great time. 

I was a nervous wreck about how LJB would react to a strange, unpredictable, loud environment, but he adapted.  He had a blast playing with his cousins.  He actually played with them!  I couldn't have been more proud of my little dude.

Even though we have been mega-stressed, I realize we have been tremendously blessed.  I have a kiddo who amazes me every single day.  He has this uncanny ability to make everyone around him smile.  I watched this weekend as my parents and my sisters grinned from ear to ear just because he was there.  Sometimes I feel like Mr B and I are the only ones that get to see the funny, loving, sweet, clever little guy who loves Mickey Mouse, gives great snuggles, and likes to pretend to whisper secrets in your ear.  He is usually just so out of sorts when we are around other people or away from home.  This weekend was different.  This weekend they all saw it.  My boy was the star of the show.  He chased cousins, waved hi and bye, blew kisses, threw balls, played cars.  We all had a blast!

2012 was hard.  There was joy interspersed with some of the saddest days of my life. I'm looking forward to a fresh start in the new year.

Bring it on 2013.  I'm ready.  And for anyone who wants to follow along, here are a few of my resolutions:

1.  The obligatory lose weight/get healthy resolution.  This time, for real.
2.  More focus on my husband/marriage.  For the past 6 months, every ounce of energy I have has been poured into LJB.  Though he is certainly still the focus, Mr B and I need to get a sitter and get out more.  Our marriage is coming back into the forefront in 2013.
3.  More consistent blogging.  I love this.  I love to chronicle our goings-on on the world wide web.  Even if no one reads, I need to write it.
4.  Potty training.  Many of you know that we use cloth diapers.  Best. Decision. Ever.  I love them.  When we are traveling and use disposables, I can't wait to get back home and get some fluff on the little dude's booty.  That being said, I am tired of the laundry.  So, before the end of 2013, I resolve to give potty training my best shot.

There you have it.  Have a very Happy New Year!

Friday, October 26, 2012

Greening Our Cities

The following letter concerning climate change is a kind of thought experiment put in to action.  The thought experiment is this: Is there a discernible starting point for an idea that makes its way into public discourse, and can that idea come straight from the bottom of the power hierarchy, by a person with no connections, no political experience, and no expertise?  How do popular sentiments exist (for example the idea of "universal health care") and where do they come from?  Can one individual make use of social media and more traditional forms of communication to start and spread a specific governmental policy initiative? In a nutshell, the letter says that curbing the impact of global warming is a project suited for the federal goverment, and one part of that project could be mandating that all American cities become functionally sustainable.  I am curious to see how this idea is replicated and/or altered as it meanders its way through the hands and minds of other Americans.  Over the course of the next few months, I will be mailing a copy of this letter to every member of Congress, various offices within the executive branch, environmental lobbying groups, think tanks, and political pundits.  All of this effort may amount to nothing, or it could blossom into something big.  We shall see...

Please read and comment on this post and pass the idea or the link to this blog along to others!


Greening Our Cities:

      An Open Letter to Public Officials


From
A Concerned Citizen

To any and all concerned with the long-term sustainability of human existence on planet Earth:

I am writing this letter to try and communicate to elected leaders, policy makers, and environmental advocates that there is a real need for a large-scale policy initiative on the part of the federal government to stem the tide of carbon emissions and reverse the trends in global warming and adverse climate change.

While most of us can acknowledge that in the long term there are surely dire outcomes awaiting the course of humanity should it remain on its current heading—that being the wholesale exploitation of fossil fuel resources in the name of industrial growth—nevertheless, the rhetoric of elected officials does not engage the problem.   Even market-friendly legislation like cap-and-trade cannot find traction to make its way into law. Special interest groups on the behalf of the fossil fuel energy lobby to keep short-term considerations front and center, and with good reason—continuing to profit from fossil fuel extraction means jobs for millions of people.  Still, the legacy we are leaving our children and grandchildren is dire indeed. I feel there is a gut-level sentiment held by a majority of Americans that the time to act is now, and that the scale of the vision must be awesome.  We need ideas that combine the technical precision, energy, and impact of some of America’s greatest achievements—an aggregation of Rural Electrification, the Federal Highway Project, and the Moon Race—but laid out on a scale and a timeline far exceeding any endeavor that has come before.  The 21st Century should be known as the century humanity saved itself from itself. 

Here is what I offer as a policy:

The Federal Government mandates that all U.S. cities be functionally sustainable by 2075.

The obvious first question is what the term “functionally sustainable” means for a city.  The idea is to bring a city’s total carbon footprint to near-zero, and one major way to accomplish that goal is the total conversion of the city’s residential and commercial spaces to renewable energy sources.  Buildings would be adapted to renewable energy programs piecemeal, and as each one came to a net-neutral energy position it could then place excess energy back on the grid, which could then be used by other facilities.  These programs would occur in conjunction with the building of wind farms, solar stations, and other renewable energy projects. Natural gas and micro-nuclear power plants could serve to bridge some of the gap in energy consumption as well as create job markets.  The aggregate effect for the long term would be to completely offset the traditional coal-fired energy grid that currently supplies energy to much of the nation’s cities. 

The next question one may ask is, why cities?  My proposal attempts to merge two opposing viewpoints.  One the one hand, there are those among the environmental movement who identify the term “civilization” as signifying urbanization and the growth of cities.  Since places of high population density are fundamentally extractive in nature as opposed to productive—meaning cities cannot survive without pulling in resources produced or manufactured elsewhere (agricultural products being most crucial)—some environmentalists see cities as the ultimate locus of our destruction, the graveyard of the human species.

One the other hand, there are those who think about the increasing human population and conclude that stacked housing, mixed-use edifices, and mass transit are the means to solving crises of privation and inequality by maximizing efficiency.  They also view the opposing side as succumbing to bucolic daydreams of pastoral serenity, espousing an agrarian ideal no longer practical or even desirable given our current way of life.

Thus my proposal calls upon the power and resources of the federal government to find a workable compromise between these two ideologies. 

Here’s one possible way to execute the mandate:

The President announces that as part of his budget proposal for the coming year 10 billion dollars will be allocated to one medium-sized city (100,000-500,000 people) for the purposes of converting the entirety of that city and its inhabitants to a sustainable way of life.  Every city of the appropriate size will have an opportunity to submit in-depth proposals as to how they would allocate the federal grant.  A blue ribbon panel comprising climatologists, environmentalists, urban planners, architects, and other related experts will select the winning city (yes, a contest of sorts).  This city will be the test case.  The city will devise its own bureaucratic apparatus to administer the funds, but all expenditures will be independently audited and open for review to ensure fiscal accountability.

Phase two of the proposal: An assessment will take place at a specific time (say two years) from the issuing of the grant to determine what policies and initiatives are effective and what aren’t.  This assessment will provide the general outline for how subsequent federal money will be allocated to other cities.  That money will be increased to 100 billion dollars per year, effectively bringing online 10 additional cities each year to begin the process of sustainable conversion. 

(The dollar amounts and implementation procedures are my starting points for a conversation.  They would need to be adjusted or discarded as needed by those working inside the political system.)

Here are some additional ideas that could be folded into the policy:

·  Developing localized, community-sponsored agricultural initiatives that set a specific threshold of agricultural production within the city (via community gardens and other means) and the surrounding countryside (say a 100-mile radius) equating to a specific calorie-to-inhabitant ratio (for example 2,000 food calories produced locally each day during the growing season for each city resident).

·  Promoting green-sector jobs by setting part of the grant money aside to hire recent college graduates with degrees in related fields; also, the creation of numerous internship positions that would be staffed by college students and would count for course credit to a degree.

· Creating urban training centers, perhaps as extensions of area universities, which would provide education free of charge to low-income or unemployed people in fields vital to urban sustainability.


To conclude, my great hope with such a proposal is not to see it enacted as stated but as intended, and the intent here is simple: It is time for Americans to act en masse to change the course of humanity and set it on a different path.  The instrument of change that can rise to the scope of the challenge that now faces us can only be the federal government, simply because of the revenue it commands and the laws it can make and enforce.  It is time for real leadership and an honest commitment to sustainable strategies that will ensure the survival of this country and of the human species.


Thank you very much for reading this letter and passing the idea along.

Sincerely,

Joshua Bush